Are you an Introvert?

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I am. But like most of the society, introverts are often misunderstood. Based on my experience, books, articles and talks about introversion, here is a quick guide to understanding who/”what” we are:

  • Introversion is not a mental/emotional disorder. I think the proper term would be “personality”.
  • We are not shy; we don’t have low self esteem/confidence or lack of social skills.We just want our own little space.
  • We don’t want to be alone. We want to be left alone.
  • Being around many people drains our energy.
  • and We need enough time to recover from a social encounter/event
  • We are not anti-social. We just don’t do small talks. We can be sociable but we prefer not to (Again, it drains our energy)
  • We prefer one-on-one conversations than group
  • We enjoy “me time” to explore our feelings and thoughts. No distractions.
  • We are not depressed or suicidal.
  • We don’t say much or compliment people (see: small talk) but we can be a good judge of character by observing (the human species. haha!)
  • Yes, introverts are very observant.
  • Introverts are listeners than talkers
  • Prefers text/chat over phone calls (Thank you, voicemail!)
  • Enjoys company of family and close friends
  • Doesn’t care about wealth, fame or social status

Share your ideas!

 

 

xx,

R.J

 

To all the ladies out there:

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Be yourself, everyone else is taken.” —

Forget about how you want to be “her”, stop whining about how imperfect you are, how you spend so much time not eating just to maintain your “sexy” bod, how you spend all your time and effort (and money) trying to be someone else, the list goes on (even until the ends of the universe; send me your list if you have one!).

Inspiration is good. A little motivation from someone is healthy. Setting a good standard for you to follow is not bad at all. But devoting all your energy just to be someone else is something. Sadly, you’ll end up not better than “her” but a copy cat.

Embrace your imperfections. You may have weaknesses but surely you have more good qualities than you give yourself credit for. Stop starving yourself to perfection but eat healthier/exercise more. Your body will thank you later. Stop compromising to the definition of beauty in today’s world. Accept yourself as you are because YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. What you think becomes who you are. So, if you keep thinking you are not as pretty, you are not as rich, you are not as popular; you definitely, surely, are not.

Enjoy while you can. Eat whatever you want (in moderation, of course), spend more time with your family and your friends, they are the ones who will make you feel your best. Do not try to be better or like someone else but be the best version of you. Do what makes you happy. Spend your money not on what you think others would want but on something you really want. Something that will define who you are and not be quoted as “the follower”.

Travel your own path, dream the dream you’ve always wanted, be THE inspiration to others, be the woman who is comfortable in her own skin. Not a follower but a leader. Love yourself  how God loves you; perfect and special in every way. As one of my favorite Bible verse (Proverbs 31:25-26) says, “She is clothed with strength and dignity, she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” Be that kind of woman. The words speak for itself.

Live your life not how others live it but the best way you can. Treat every moment of your life striving to be a blessing to others. Be beautiful inside out.Be confident of who you are and what you can do. Feel beautiful because you are!

Now, go out to the world and show the new version of you!

 

 

xx,

R.J

Unpublished

** I wrote this entry last November 11, 2012. It’s been a while since I last opened my blog and after almost 2 years, I have no idea why I left this in my drafts (See link for original title). Whatever the reason was, it makes sense so I’m posting it now (unedited).

God answers prayers. But it won’t always be the way you imagined it to be. Sometimes it’ll come in fancy gift boxes or it will take you by surprise; Either way, He answers.—

Some people try everything they could to be where and who they want to be. Some just take life for granted. Most of the time we miss out on the good things because we focus so much on the finish line. How we run the race is more important than winning it. The handwork, patience, the obstacles along the way, the days when you feel like giving up, the time when you feel sick and tired, the moments when you see how others run and go pass you and how much effort you exert trying to get to the end. It’s all that matters. When you feel like you don’t want to continue the race, think about the first time, think about the burning passion you had the first day; that’s what will keep you focused to continue the battle. We may grow tired and weary but having the faith we once had will keep us going.

 

xx,

R.J

Twenty Twelve

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Another year is about to end. Wow. 12 months surely passed by so quickly.

For me, it’s been a mix of earthquakes and rainbows.

The year began very silent and a bit emotional but it was also a crazy, busy few months that made time go faster than expected. I took part in organizing our first Concert for a cause that became a huge success (All glory to God), I had my first Euro trip in Greece where I also attended my first international conference, I’ve also had the best, meaningful, busy and rainy summer back home.

Then, the so-called quarter life crisis hit me. I became dull, irate, negative and waking up every day feeling down with no inspiration or motivation to move on with life. I felt like I’m not doing what I’m supposed to do and I’m running out of time trying to accomplish all my goals. I decided that I’m leaving Riyadh and go on a completely different route next year. In short, I was a wreck emotionally and mentally.

Thankfully, I got past that. I woke up one day figuring out what the fuss is all about. I asked myself what I am complaining about when I have all these wonderful things around me. I killed my pessimistic self and moved on.

Goodbyes. A few people dear to me had to leave to start their new journey. Sad, but parting is inevitable sometimes and you just have to be happy that they’re leaving to achieve their dreams.

Hellos. “If someone goes, someone new comes along.” New people came into my life and for that I am more than thankful. Some of them became friends, a few beaus and some old acquaintance eventually became good friends.

The year isn’t over until I am faced with a situation that would expect me to make a choice. Sometimes you won’t really know the feeling of being sea sick if you don’t go out and sail in the sea. You might wonder what I’m talking about; some would get this, some won’t. Point is, I write no secrets just clues.

Tomorrow is a new year. A start of a journey for some, the end for others or for those walking a long path, it’s just another day. No matter what point we are in right now, this is the time to remember all the good and the bad for the past 364 days. It’s been a fun, wild ride but surely something to be thankful for. For all the blessings that we have received, for the family and friends that we still have, for the love that we still share, for the laughter and tears that we can still give. Most of all, for another chance that we get to breathe again and make a difference in this world.

Forget all the sorrow and pain of the past year and embrace all the good things that happened to us. If not for trials we are not as strong as we are now, and if not for the optimism and hope, we are not where we are now.

Welcome 2013 with a thankful heart and a vision of a blessed future. Let go and let God. Wake up each morning feeling brand new and encouraged to do something worthwhile. Do not be afraid to fail but be courageous enough to stand up and try again. Do not hesitate to fall in love for even with uncertainty, love is always beautiful. Laugh hard, cry hard. Walk with your head held high but with your feet kept in the ground. Be motivated and accept the challenges that life will offer. Dream big and believe in yourself. Never fear change for it will help you grow. Trust in the LORD and put your faith in Him; for in Him, nothing is impossible.

xx,

R.

I Told You So

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They say take heart over mind. For some, it’s the mind above the heart.–

 

We make choices based on what we know, how we feel, what others say or what you think you should be. We are all different on how we picture the future. There are people who decides to live at the moment and let tomorrow unveil its surprises. Some people including myself can’t help but think of the future and how we should live today for tomorrow. There will never be a wrong side because it is both part of our reality. How one lives doesn’t mean the same for another. 

We all have our fair share of giving this life a little challenge. 

I dislike having multiple choices that doesn’t necessarily lead to the right answer. Those times when you have to choose one phase of happiness over the other. I hate that I often consider compromising with others even if it means giving up what really makes me happy. But I guess I’ll always have that part of myself. As much as I try to make things seem alright, I     never want to be judged wrongly, I don’t want to hear “I told you so”, I hate feeling sorry for myself just because others make me feel that I made a mistake. 

Nobody’s perfect but you’ll agree that once in a while we try to be one. Sometimes it gets tougher when you have already reached your destination. Sometimes you just feel like going back. But life will never go on if we always fear that we will lose in the end or we are too afraid to take a step because we don’t want to fall down. But we will never know what’s on the other side of the door if we never go in it. 

Make a choice not for yourself; not for others; but because it feels right. Don’t be afraid of judgement because it will make you stronger. Don’t try to be perfect and don’t let mistakes define who you are or who you will become. Take each day one step at a time and the day will come where you’ll finally make it right.

 

xx,

R.

It’s not you, It’s me

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You can dream of anything but you have to face reality that you can’t have everything.

We all have dreams playing in our head; our very own fiction with a fairy tale-ending.

We are all entitled to an extreme fantasy but we have a choice to chase it or live the closest reality possible. I, myself, fall in the latter. I have so many goals, I have images of myself where I’m the person I always wanted to be. All of which is very realistic and attainable. I didn’t have to deal with the impossible where I’d own a flying pink pony when I turn 25. But no matter how realistic it might be, it still seems like I can only have a few options at hand. It’ll always end up with, “If I do this then I have to give up being a certain person”, “If I make this choice, I’d have to live without the other”. Through the years, I didn’t give up on any of my dreams but it just happens that I made a choice to do one thing over the other. Sad to say, I’d often lose a big dream to be on the safe zone. Sometimes I’d rather be the same person than to be judged wrongly for what I’ll do next.

Some people tend to do things based on what other people say. They are so conscious of how others would react to what they do, how they speak, what they wear and who they’re with. It’s funny how much effort we make in order to please others or to do things that others expect you to do. Most of the time we end up in regret and being unhappy for giving up what you want for what others want for you. You can watch what you say and how you act so you don’t hurt people but don’t let them stop you from becoming who you really want to be. There will be things that make us happy but we sometimes let it pass in exchange for people’s approval.

Live your life like you pictured it the first time. Live it as if nothing’s gonna go wrong. Don’t be afraid to fail for you can’t appreciate the reward if you were not able to endure a little pain. Forget what other people would say but let them forget what they have to say about you. Be happy as you are and live the best life the best way you know how.

It is true that we can’t have everything but don’t let it stop you from dreaming big and achieving them along the way. How much will it hurt to have a little faith?

 

xx,

R.